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LMTV #67: Premature Positivity

Positive Thinking. It’s a wonderful concept, and something worth adopting. But what happens if you get ahead of yourself?

A great sage once said:

Let the seekers seek. When they seek, they will find. When they find, they will be troubled. But when they get through the trouble, they will marvel and enjoy.

When you begin the process of waking yourself up to the brilliant magnificence of who you really are, the initial stages can be challenging. While you are becoming aware of deeper truths about yourself, those old stories–the old tape-loops that you’ve been carrying around all your life–don’t stop playing immediately. The volume might go down a little, but even if you manage to shut some of the loops off, you’ll still hear echoes ricocheting around inside your head. It can be a little weird, and you may even imagine that you are going crazy.

The truth is, you are actually going UN-crazy! Unfortunately, your ego-mind doesn’t know that, and it’s still doing its endless job of trying to keep you safe, so it’s working hard to get you back into that old comfort zone that it likes so much, and maybe even trying to get those old tape-loops back up to their original volume.

Now, many self-help books and personal growth training programs will tell you that all you have to do is change the way you think. And that is very true. But in this “instant-gratification-world” that we live in, many gurus will promise you immediate results. All you have to do is THINK POSITIVE.

Well, sorry, no. It just doesn’t work like that—not if you don’t deal with the negativity that is buried in your unconscious: the old thoughts, the limiting beliefs, the ancient messages that you’ve been unconsciously buying into for most of your life.

You can THINK POSITIVE all you want, and you might even notice some degree of improvement. But if you don’t deal with those unconscious beliefs, then all you are really doing is engaging in Premature Positivity—covering over what you really believe. You are effectively trying to hide your negative beliefs in the closet.

Think of it this way:

Covering over your unconscious negative beliefs with shiny new positive ones is kind of like putting on a new suit before you’ve taken off your dirty clothes and had a shower.

So, do you want to be the finder of your real truth? Then be willing to go through your own trouble phase, and start uncovering, examining and dealing with those old beliefs. Let the Soul Talk Guys help!

Join Tommy & David and curiously go exploring into the adventurous depths of yourself so that you can step fully into positivity without being sabotaged by old beliefs.

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LMTV #66: My Divine Contract

Do you believe that you have a Spiritual Purpose—perhaps something you committed to before you were even born?

Some people believe that each of us has a Divine Contract that defines our spiritual purpose in the physical plane. The idea is that—as spiritual beings prior to our arrival in the physical realm—we had a clear sense of what we’d like to accomplish in our next incarnation. And, as the theory goes, we made commitments and agreements with other spiritual beings—some of whom may have accompanied us into this world, and some of whom may have stayed behind in the spiritual world.

Now, you may think this is a pretty crazy idea, or maybe you resonate with it completely, right down into the tiny spaces of your heart and soul. Well, the Soul Talk Guys find the idea utterly fascinating, so they invited back Josette Prevost, an expert in Quantum Healing Hypnotherapy and someone who has a great deal of experience investigating past lives.

Having worked and studied with the late Dolores Cannon, Josette is the perfect person to help us look at this idea of My Divine Contract—and to guide us to connecting with that contract while we’re here in the physical world. Just imagine the possibilities!

  • What if it’s true that you made some kind of plan before you arrived on this planet?
  • What if, before you came to this plane, you got together with some of your spirit buddies—quite literally, your soul mates—and planned out some very specific things for you to experience during your life here?
  • Can you imagine what impact it could have on your life if you could get a clear sense of what that plan might be?
  • Wouldn’t you like to remember it?

A lot of us go through life without any clear understanding of our purpose. Some of us try things just to see how they resonate. Some of us get lucky and find something that seems to fulfill us, but many of us end up trying one thing after another, hoping (against hope, perhaps) that eventually we’ll find something that fulfills us. And those of us who never find that often end up settling in our lives for something much less than we imagine is right for us.

Well, that’s precisely what the “calling of your soul” is all about. Your soul is constantly trying to bring you back into alignment with your Spiritual Purpose for Being—even if your ego-mind is busy telling you all kinds of other things.

So, if you want a life of ease, if you want to feel an ongoing sense of fulfillment, if you want to experience joy and abundance and wonder for the rest of your life, then you really owe it to yourself to find out and get aligned with your purpose. Check out David & Tommy's video, and see what you can learn about your own Divine Contract.

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LMTV #65: The Mixed Signals of Change

Change. It’s inevitable, right? In some ways we seek it; in some ways, we dread it. One way or another, we go through it.

We humans are pretty strange creatures, when you really think about it. Here we are, right here, right now. Yet, it seems that in our heads we’re always thinking about something else. To outward appearances, it often looks like we’re never quite satisfied, that we’re looking to the future—for the Next Big Thing. No matter what is present right here, right now, there is always something “out there”. And we seem to think that, as soon as that something is here, our life will magically become fantastic and wonderful. Welcome to

The-Grass-is-Always-Greener-on-the-Other-Side-of-the-Fence Syndrome!

But here’s the strangest part! We continually ask for change—specifically for things to be better, but then, when an opportunity for change presents itself, what happens? Well, for many of us, you’ll hear things like these:

  • “Oh. I can’t possibly do that.”
  • “That sounds too scary.”
  • “No Thanks. That’s not for me.”
  • “I’m not ready… I haven’t had time to prepare for this.”

Oh, yeah! We’re masters of begging for change—only to deflect it when it happens to show up!

If you think about it for a moment, you’ll realize that your life is essentially a series of events that occur primarily because of what you think and feel. What you think and feel leads you so say things, and this in turn usually directs your actions. And guess what? Your actions lead to your results—or what you might euphemistically refer to as “what happens to you”.

  • Does any of this sound familiar to you?
  • Are you caught up in this dynamic in your life?
  • Are you tired of it?
  • Would you like to try something different?

Well if you said yes to any of these questions, you might want to consider making a different kind of change—a change in how you approach life. Check out this week’s video, and begin the process of identifying and straightening out your mixed messages. Let the Soul Talk Guys help you get some relief from your

Mixed Signals of Change

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LMTV #64: Internal Hostage Situation

Do you have such high hopes and expectations for yourself that you hold yourself hostage to achieving them?

Personal Standards. Lofty Goals. High Expectations. Ever had any of these? Perhaps you have them even now!

And, do you, perhaps, carry a virtual whip around in order to make sure you “toe the line” and never deviate from your “designated path”?

Well, in many respects, this behavior is quite understandable.

When we are young, we look up to the adults in our lives, and the advice they are only too happy to give us is no doubt intended to help us succeed in the world. But the truth is, we’re set onto a road of never-ending self-improvements from a very early age. Almost all of us have messages like these fed to us like a constant diet of don’t-let-me-down gruel:

  • Get good grades.
  • Do your best.
  • Make me proud.
  • Come back a winner.
  • <Add your own favorite here!>

Do you by any chance remember this line from one of America’s popular songs from the 70s?

Oz never did give nothin’ to the Tin Man, that he didn’t, didn’t already have.

You see, you can listen to the advice of others all you want. And some of it may even be useful and helpful. But you already have all the wisdom, knowledge and ability you need in order to live your life in the best way possible. The truth is, if you let yourself just BE YOU, you’ll be good at pretty much anything you do. A parent. A partner. A friend. A business owner. A ditch digger. No matter what your passion might be.

However, there is still the problem, isn’t there? You may hear in your mind that you’ve never quite made it yet, that you’re not quite there, that you’ve got to keep trying. This is because the encouraging voices of others that you heard before can transform themselves into the demanding voice of your own inner-personal disapproval. As a result, you may carrying some unconscious disempowering beliefs like you can never have what you need, or that you can never meet the expectations that have been set for you.

We picked up and adopted expectations that were told to us over and over again, until we believed them wholeheartedly. And now, we hold our own feet to the fire in order to ensure that somehow, some way, we finally fulfill some high hope. Before we die. Please.

The Soul Talk Guys think it’s high time we stop doing this to ourselves. There is no need for any of us to seek to be perfect and make ourselves crazy in the process. David & Tommy want to encourage you and help you to lay down your burden once and for all, and start living the kind of life that really matters to you.

Check out this week’s video, and start untying another knot so as to set yourself free.

And please remember to leave a comment below!

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LMTV #63: Take the Bite out of Fear

Fear is one emotion that can really hold us back if we let it. It can even paralyze us. Let’s see if we can change that!

Fight or Flee.

You’ve heard of this, right? It is the typical reaction that is often attributed to one of the most powerful—and usually disempowering—emotions: FEAR.

And there is good reason for this reaction. According to evolutionary theory, fear put us on guard to very real dangers that existed in our world, and in our state of high alert, would give us a chance to assess our current situation and respond accordingly. Fear was necessary for our very survival, and without it we would no doubt have put ourselves into harm’s way—and paid a very high price as a result.

If we look at our world today, however, we can see that the dangers that we faced hundreds or thousands of years ago have more or less disappeared. Of course, new dangers have in some cases taken their place, but, really, our world is a much safer place than it used to be. And yet, our fear instincts are still very strong—and perhaps much stronger than they ought to be. Much of this has to do with the power of our ego-minds, whose job is to keep us safe so that we can navigate our way through the physical world. But it turns out that our ego-minds are so sensitive to danger that they often assume risk where none exists! And this is why many teachers refer to fear as:

False Evidence Appearing Real

Of course, it may seem very real to your ego-mind and your body may indeed feel the full force of the emotion, so the message you may be hearing in your head might be closer to:

F@*# Everything And Run!

The Soul Talk Guys are not here to tell you to ignore your fear. Rather, they just want to help you reduce the power of fear in your life so that you stop being controlled by it. In other words, they want to help you to

Take the Bite out of Fear

As you gain more control over your fear and begin to quiet the voice of your ego-mind, you will automatically begin to notice some changes:

  • You will feel much less stress in your life.
  • You will enjoy what you are doing much more.
  • You will tend to look forward to new things with a sense of excitement and adventure.
  • You will naturally find yourself attracting and gravitating to more and more like-minded people.

What more could you ask, really? If you want any of these things in your life, then check out the video for this week’s episode of Life Mastery TV. And don’t forget to leave your comment in the space below.

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LMTV #62: Life is NOT a Race!

We seem to have a tendency to hurry through life, as if we have to get to an imaginary goal line in record time.

As kids, many of us can’t wait to grow up! We see all the adults around us doing things that are supposedly for “adults only”, and being the curious and adventurous types that we are, we naturally want to know why we aren’t allowed to participate in those activities too.

Our intense curiosity leads to a desire to grow up more quickly, and some of us even manage to succeed in doing so-called “adult things” before our hearts, minds, bodies, and souls are ready.

But then what happens?

Well, it seems that we often end up feeling disappointment because we created a sense of anticipation for the amazing experience we would have when we were finally allowed to do what we wanted to do—only to discover that the actual experience fell far short of our hyped-up expectation.

And then, as if that is not enough of a burden to put upon ourselves, we then go into if-only mode:

  • If only I hadn’t grown up so fast;
  • If only I’d given myself time to enjoy my life as it was happening;
  • If only I could go back and try again;
  • If only I <fill-in-the-blank>…

Sound familiar?

Well, no matter how this idea resonates with you, you can stop the process at any time! And that’s what the Soul Talk Guys share in this webinar. You can learn to:

  • Recognize when you are rushing through your life.
  • Slow yourself down enough to notice whether there really is a good reason for hurrying, or if you’re just doing it out of habit, or out of some desire to fulfill an unconscious expectation.
  • Decide on an appropriate course of action based on your discovery.
  • Enjoy the process, no matter how fast or slow you decide to go.

If you want to be able to fully enjoy your life in every moment, then you owe it to yourself to watch the video…and please remember to leave a comment below.

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LMTV #61: Pushing Buttons

Do you ever take devilish pleasure in pushing other people’s buttons?

It seems that almost everyone knows what it’s like to have their buttons pushed. It goes something like this:

  • Someone we know says or does something;
  • What they say or do has an impact on us;
  • We have some kind of external reaction;
  • The other person learns that his/her words or action can trigger this reaction, and maybe derives some perverse pleasure from it;
  • He/she waits till just the right moment to re-engage the words or action and hopes to get the same reaction from us.

Does this sound familiar to you? Have you been on the receiving end of this? Have you ever found yourself on the giving of it?

In previous Life Mastery TV episodes, David & Tommy have talked about the receiving side of this equation, and have taught that each of us has choice about how we react to any situation. In this episode, they take another look at the whole idea of “Pushing Buttons”, with a little more focus on the giving side of the interaction, and they raise some challenging questions about what might motivate us to want to push someone else’s buttons in the first place. Questions like these:

  • Why would I want to push someone’s buttons (especially someone close to me)?
  • What do I imagine I’m going to get out of the experience, other than perhaps a little strange pleasure?
  • What kind of relationship am I creating with this person when I engage in button-pushing behaviors?
  • What new strategies can I begin to practice so that I create the kind of relationship or interaction I actually want in my life?

This episode may make you a little uncomfortable, because you’ll be challenged to look at some of your own shadow behaviors. This is not intended to make you wrong in any way—after all, button pushing is almost certainly a pretty universal behavior!

Rather, the Soul Talk Guys just want to raise awareness about this common behavior and have us all look at this together from the perspective of creating happier, more loving relationships in our lives. So, take a risk and watch the video. You’ll be glad you did!

PS. Please remember to leave a comment below!

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LMTV #59: Reclaim Your Mojo

It is a sad fact that sometimes tragedy strikes and mayhem ensues. Let your broken heart lead you back to your mojo.

Barbara Musser is the kind of person who doesn’t let tragedy get in her way. As the author of Sexy After Cancer—Meeting Your Inner Aphrodite on the Breast Cancer Journey, Barbara knows all too well what it means to be affected by a completely unexpected medical diagnosis. Her own experience opened pathways for her to develop tools for creating and growing acceptance, forgiveness and love while on a cancer journey. And she has graciously agreed to bring some of her loving healing energy to this week’s show.

Is there tragedy in your life? Have you found yourself beset by something that seems too big for you to handle? Do you have challenges that seem insurmountable? Are you struggling to find the strength or the motivation to move through something painful?

Well, friend, no matter what story you might be listening to in your head, you can rest assured you are not alone. Everyone struggles at one time or another, and everyone has pain that may seem very difficult to get through. And the Soul Talk Guys are here to help!

What you may not realize is that the difficulty or the pain you are experiencing in any given moment might very well be the key you are looking for to help you move to the next stage of your life. It’s hard to see that when you are caught up in the details of your situation, but it often seems to be the case that

The solution you are looking for is hidden within the problem!

Barbara has dealt with this kind of thing in her own life, and she has transformed her own process into amazing facilitation and coaching skills that she uses to help other people—people just like YOU!—to come through the depths of their tragedy into the glory of their mojo!

Check out this week’s video, and let guest presenter Barbara Musser show you how to bring some healing into your life.

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LMTV #58: Communicating from the Heart

Communication is probably the single most important element of any relationship.

In fact, barring some kind of catastrophe, if you ever have a problem of any kind in any of your relationships, it can almost always be traced back to a difficulty in communication. And more often than not, the difficulty in communication comes about because the ego-mind is attached to being in control or to being right. That’s right! That pesky ego-mind is often the culprit whenever communication goes wrong!

Interestingly, if you can get out of your head and into your heart, you can create an almost immediate improvement in your communication—and consequently, a commensurate improvement in your relationships. Of course, it helps if your relationship partner can get out of his/her head at the same time, but even if only one of the relationship parties can do this in any given moment, it is a very powerful step in the right direction.

In this episode, Tommy & David welcome relationship expert and certified life coach Christian Pedersen to share some of the things he has learned about creating powerful and fulfilling relationships.

Christian and his wife Sonika produce and lead mind-altering trainings like Give Yourself to Love and The Masculine-Feminine Energy Dance that are designed to help people create and experience amazing, life-affirming, mutually supportive relationships. And these relationships are built on a solid foundation of unconditional love and open-hearted communication. You can find out more about Christian's work at his website: LoveWorksForYou.com.

If you want to learn more about unwinding your ego-mind so that you can both speak and listen from your heart, then check out the video! And please remember to leave a comment below.

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LMTV #57: It’s All Good

Do you like to have control? When you get control, does it actually change anything?

Do you ever get frustrated when things don’t go your way? Do you ever find yourself getting angry when someone is rude on the road? Is it just possible that you notice all the other “stupid” things that “stupid” people do? And if you do happen to get a little upset, what happens when you hear someone say something like,

Relax. Calm down. Let it go. It is what it is! It's all good.

When you are in the heat of your frustration or anger, there is a pretty good chance you even react to someone else’s attempt to help you calm down, right? But even if you don’t find yourself reacting with statements like:

Really?? Are you kidding me? Don’t you have any idea what I’m going through?

…well, there could be a possibility that this kind of monologue could still be playing out in your head. And if that is true, then you are probably creating a lot of pain and suffering—not only for yourself, but also for the people around you.

Well, guess what, friend? As hard as it might be to believe (especially in your moments of upset), it really is true that

It's all good.

You’ve heard Tommy & David talk about this before, but it bears repeating here. When you consider where you are in your life right now, you have to admit that you’ve made it through some difficulties, challenges, and obstacles during your life. You didn’t always have control, no matter how much you might have wanted it. And yet—as if perhaps by some miracle—you made it where you are today. In fact, all of the circumstances, events, and conditions of your life helped to shape you into the person you are today. Really, now, how bad can that be?

This week, the Soul Talk Guys bring this point home, so check out the video and find out for yourself. And please share this with your friends and remember to leave a comment below!