LMTV #93: Kick the Habit

When you hear the phrase Kick the Habit, what’s the first thing you think of?

  • Smoking?
  • Drinking?
  • Gambling?
  • Drugs?
  • Some other form of addiction?

Sure, these are the official bad habits that we’d all like to avoid if we don’t have them, and to break if we do. But there are others, too, some of which may be even more damaging in their own way than the ones listed above.

What is a habit anyway? If you think about it for a moment, you may come to agree that a habit is really nothing more than a familiar—and usually easy—way to do something. And often, once the pattern gets ingrained in us, it drops into our subconscious, to the point where we may not even realize we’re doing it any more.

A habit usually starts out as a behavior that serves us in some way, that provides us some kind of comfort or gratification—that is, it fills some kind of need that we may believe we have within us. And the initial behavior may in fact serve a viable and helpful purpose for us when we first start doing it. But in time—usually long after the behavior has become somewhat automatic—it no longer serves the purpose for which it was intended, and it may end up actually doing damage…damage to ourselves, to our loved ones, or to our environment.

Consider a simple example. Say you are disappointed with your performance doing a particular activity. You might give yourself a little pep-talk to get yourself motivated to do better. The next time you engage that activity you actually find yourself improving. But then, you may find that you want to improve yourself even more, and so the pep-talk becomes even more intense and animated—to the point where, if you don’t live up to the increasingly high standard—you end up berating yourself, criticizing yourself, beating yourself up. And then, before you know it, you have developed a habit of negative self-talk! If you’re lucky, you’ll become aware of this and maybe find a way to heal it before it gets totally out of hand, but sadly, most of us engage in this kind of thing until it does real psychological damage to ourselves—and to others around us.

What other kinds of debilitating habits might we be talking about here? Well, how about these:

  • Engaging in negative self-talk.
  • Complaining, bitching, moaning about our situations.
  • Worrying or being anxious about virtually every condition in our lives.
  • Overthinking and overanalyzing things.
  • Judging people, events, or conditions.
  • Blaming situations or people rather than taking responsibility for our own choices.
  • Gossiping about others.
  • Comparing ourselves with others and then berating ourselves for failing to measure up.

Well, as you can see, there is a fairly lengthy list of possible habits that may be even more dangerous than the ones listed at the beginning!

What to do? What to do?

Indeed, it may seem like a monumental task to break habits like these, but David & Tommy know that it’s not as hard as you might think. And that’s what they’re going to share with you this week.

The Soul Talk Guys have both been there; they’ve had a lot of these habits themselves, and they’ve worked through the hard parts of breaking most of them. They can help you to start and continue this process for yourself too. So, if you want to reduce a lot of stresss in your life and make things much more peaceful for yourself and everyone around you, check out this week’s webinar. Join David & Tommy and learn how to

Kick the Habit!

You’ll be glad you did!

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