How We Give Our Power Away by Blaming Others for Our Feelings

• You make me angry!
• You made me cry.
• That really pissed me off.
• That hurt my feelings.

Sound familiar?

Even if you don’t say these words out loud (anymore), there’s a pretty high probability that you say them in your head. And what you may not realize is that, by blaming someone else for toying with your fragile emotions (even if only in your thoughts), you’re actually telling yourself how weak and unworthy you are. Bet you never thought of that, right?

Well, guess, what, friend? You can stop it now if you want to. You can decide right this moment to stop being a passive victim of other people’s—or even your own—button pushing. As a very direct Teacher might say,
[blockquote variation=”teal”]I’m not making you do or feel anything. You’re letting your feelings be hurt. You’re letting yourself be hurt.[/blockquote]

Way back in Episode 22, someone asked the Soul Talk Guys: “HOW do I not take things personally?” This is a really great question, and a big part of the answer lies at the heart of this week’s episode.

Join Tommy & David as they plunge to the depths of this and other related questions around taking responsibility for our own feelings, our own reactions, and our own situations. You’ll find the teachings very empowering and enlightening.

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What if you came to this planet to do a particular job?

And what if you had to go through all the hell, hardship, and suffering in your life as part of the plan. For—perhaps—only having gone through that level of human pain and anguish are you able to turn around and help others. What if?

Well, this week, Tommy & David dive right into their second year of Life Mastery TV with a powerful episode that will challenge you on this very issue—and we all love a challenge, right?

Just imagine…

Suppose you’ve already completed the prescribed “hard part”, and all you have to do now is teach others what you’ve learned? Maybe you’re done with the trials and difficulties; maybe it’s time to get on with doing what you came here to do?

Exciting, huh? Consider a powerful and exciting potential future for yourself:

• A future that fills your heart to overflowing because you know who you really are and you have a clear sense of what you are here to do;
• A future that flows like the inspiration that touches you when you witness others step into their power;
• A future that wraps you in love, hope, and joy.

Well, friends, it’s right there in front of you. All you have to do is reach out and take it. And only you can do what you came here to do; no-one else can do it for you. Remember, Tommy & David are here to help, and you can get some of that help for free right here, right now! What do you have to lose? You know you want to. You know you’re ready now. So get on with it!

Shine on, you crazy diamond!

Enjoy the replay video, and please leave a comment below!

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What takes dedication and commitment to build, and a mere lapse of judgment to damage or destroy? Answer: one of our most valued virtues—Trust.

Trust is one of those things that we tend to take for granted most of the time. In fact, trust is widely appreciated as one of the most precious gifts you can give to anyone. Or receive, for that matter. When someone trusts you, in a way, they’re saying to you “I see you as someone who can hold my heart gently, lovingly and compassionately. Thank you!”

According to Ernest Hemingway, “The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.”

When it comes to beginning a relationship, Hemingway’s statement seems obvious—you have to start by trusting the other person. But what happens when the other person does something that violates that trust? What then?

In this episode, David & Tommy are joined by a special guest, Beata Lewis, who is an executive coach specializing in this very issue. As a mediator and former attorney, Beata knows the vital and dynamic nature of agreements, ethics, conflict and trust for true partnering, and she is going to share some of her wisdom on this week’s show.

We talk about all things related to trust. In the video, you’ll learn about:

• how to establish trust in almost any relationship;
• how to maintain your own integrity so that you respect the trust you have with others;
• what to do if trust gets violated on either side of the relationship.

Look, we all make mistakes. We all violate the trust of others. And, if you have any sense of integrity at all, then when this happens, you probably feel sadness or anger or shame because of what you have done. Yes, this is true, but beating yourself up for it is the absolute LAST thing you should do! Because, believe it or not:

• there are plenty of ways for repairing the damage;
• there are plenty of ways of getting back into integrity;
• there are plenty of ways of healing your relationship and rebuilding that trust.

And that is just what David, Tommy and Beata share with you in this episode. So, check out the video and please leave a comment. And if you’d to find out more about Beata Lewis, please check out her website at Bridging Lives.

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It’s easy to complain, especially about things that seem outside of our control. But what does it get us, and what is the cost?

Complaining, and its close cousin, Worrying, are two energies that very rarely bring satisfaction, and mostly just cause trouble. So why do so many of us partake in this nasty habit? What makes us hungry to gossip, bitch, and moan about life and all its woes? Is misery that powerful a host? Does it really love company? In a sense, aren’t we just saying that negatives attract? And if so, why on Earth would we want to attract negativity?

Or perhaps we complain about someone or something to justify our own importance! To feel right. To feel righteous. Or maybe just to feel like we’re contributing to the conversation.

The truth is, when we worry and complain, we’re mostly just hurting ourselves. It’s like sucking on a poison lolly-pop—over and over and over again!

In this week’s episode, we expose the truth behind “the bitch”—why we bitch and what we hope to gain from it. And just maybe…the next time someone asks “How ya doing?”, you might truthfully be able to rejoice, “No Complaints!”

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What comes up for you when you hear the phrase, “It’s all about me”?

It turns out that self-centeredness is a two-edged sword. And one edge of that sword is dangerous to everyone—including the one wielding the sword!

You see, on the one-hand we have the teaching of Jesus, who said “Love your neighbor as yourself.” For most people—and particularly most scholars—this means that we have to love ourselves in the way we wish to be loved so that we can share this love with our neighbors. But notice that the self (“Me”) has to come first. Another subtle aspect of this teaching is that we must take responsibility for our own internal processes and for our reactions to whatever happens around us. This is a true act of self-love, because it means that we are not projecting our “stuff” onto other people, thereby creating more pain and suffering.

But on the other hand, we have to be careful, because the ego-mind can turn “It’s All About Me” into a whole lotta selfishness. And if we don’t take charge of our ego-mind, then pretty quickly we get caught up in the “blame game”—making other people responsible for what we are experiencing—and this is the source of great suffering. By letting our ego-mind focus our attention on our own well being at the exclusion—and expense—of everyone else, we’re constantly creating conditions for disappointment and hurt.

So, why do we say “It’s all about me” at all? Because, in reality it IS! You see, the “Truth” is , we are ALL connected. We are all one. So, there is only really ONE of us here!

But even if you don’t buy into the whole one-ness view of the world, here’s something for you to think about. Everything you think, say or do IS about you. All your judgments, conclusions, interpretations and ideas are about you. No matter how much you might think that they are about someone else, they are about you. And so, our objective with this week’s discussion is to raise awareness of this, so that people can take full responsibility for their own thoughts, choices and behaviors.

And once you can get to that place, and others get there too, then you’ll begin to see that one-ness IS the truth, and that everything, everywhere is all about WE!

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If you find yourself suffering because you tend to take things personally, then this week’s discussion is for you!

If you’ve ever read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, then you probably remember that his 2nd agreement is “Don’t Take Anything Personally”. Of all the agreements described in Ruiz’s book, this is probably the one that challenges people the most.

The ego-mind does a very good job of keeping us on alert; in its ongoing mission to keep us safe, it regularly engages in things like:

• telling us that we are not good enough;
• warning us that whatever we are about to try is going to fail miserably;
• reminding us that people are bad, and that they are all out to get us.

And if we haven’t been doing the work necessary to heal old wounds and re-connect to who we really are, then we actually tend to believe our ego-minds. This, of course, makes us extremely sensitive to what is going on around us, and it’s easy for us to fall into the disempowering and debilitating trap of taking things personally.

If you would like to free yourself from the idea that when people do things that cause you pain, they do it on purpose, then you owe it to yourself to check out this week’s discussion. Imagine how much lighter you’ll be when you

Don’t Take Anything Personally!

In this episode, we tackle this subject head-on and leave you with some tools that can really help you to stop taking things personally.

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